Advice from the UK about first-time sex & pain
The Times Online website has a sex advice column by Dr. Thomas Stuttaford and Suzi Godson. While not specifically about chronic sexual pain, this article on first-time sex and the fear of pain is an interesting, entertaining and thoughtful discussion about the most comfortable positions for women starting out as well as other methods to minimize pain and increase pleasure.
From the article, “The discomfort of early penetrative sex, if there is any, is usually related to tension in the pelvic or thigh muscles and/or anxiety that has prevented the usual vaginal lubrication.” For me, as a chronic sufferer, I do know that tensing up (which is instinctive at this point because of the pain) makes it all worse. (I’ll be writing more about this in our next newsletter.)
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